The Bachelorette Week 2 + 3 Recap
The Bachelorette Week 2 Recap
Okay, my The Bachelorette Week 2 +3 Recap is here (finally). But better late than never, right? This show was once fun and an escapism from real life. However, this season is just weird. Between the producers being slimy (as always), making the lead look like the villain herself, and the way they’re giving us Clare and Dale’s love story. It’s all leaving a weird taste to me and things just don’t feel right this season. Maybe it’s because this year is so weird itself or maybe they should have just waited to give us a season when things could be “normal”. I have many thoughts on a lot of things so I couldn’t quite commit to abandoning my recaps here. I combined weeks two and three together so let’s get on with it already.
Group Date: Let’s Talk About Love Languages
The first group date consisted of Riley, Jordan, Yosef, Ivan, Ben, Bennett, Zac C., Zack J., and Dale. At first, the objective of the date sounded sweet and interesting. But, of course, it was just kinda weird. They started out with words of affirmation with Clare in a Juliet-esque tower and the men professed kind words to her. Some were swoon-worthy. Others were rather unimpressive, but at least they tried (or maybe they didn’t, who knows). And then the guys all run back to their rooms to give Clare something super special to them for gifts. Like were they told to bring something special to them and, more importantly, if it doesn’t work out do they get their items back? Oh, and Dale gave her dog perfume. So there’s that.
Then it was time for the touch love language and immediately it was uncomfortable to watch. I can’t imagine how the other guys felt watching Clare and Dale’s chemistry be…um…that strong. Oh, and she and whatever guy she was with were blindfolded. I could see why Clare would be blindfolded but the men know they’re touching her…?
Please, not everyone at once!
When it got to the evening portion of the date, Clare gave her toast, and once the lead does that someone usually asks to steal her. Maybe it’s because quarantine made everyone lose some social skills but it was silence after her toast as she looked around and literally told them to ask to talk to her. It was so uncomfortable to watch and I felt kinda bad for her. Finally, Bennett asks to talk to her and they go away from the others. He tries talking to her but she cuts him off. She vents to him about how it made her feel bad that no one asked to steal her. So she leaves Bennett to go tell the guys off.
Most of the men found Clare telling them off empowering for her. But Mr. Yosef found it “immature” (*eye-roll* we do not trust Yosef). Dale and Clare told each other they have feelings for each other.
Group Date Rose: Riley
First One-on-One: Therapist Clare
The first one-on-one of the season is with Jason. I keep forgetting that because of COVID, they can’t have the extravagant dates the show is known for. In reality, they can’t really leave the resort. So what do you do when you don’t have an activity as a distraction? You talk about your feelings and get deep. Real deep.
For their date, they scream into the void. Then they wrote hurtful things that people have said to them in the past on tiles and then smashed them. Both of those sound very therapeutic. But also the things Jason wrote for himself raised some red flags that didn’t seem to phase Clare…like manipulative, cold, and mean just to name a few. But then she became his therapist and they got very emotionally vulnerable for an entire country to see. Then Clare throws her dress from Juan Pablo’s season into the fire.
Group Date: Dodge the Balls or Show Them
The second group date of the night consisted of Eazy, Chasen, Brandon, Brendan, Blake Moynes, Joe, Garin, Demar, Kenny, and Jay. It was the most controversial date of the season so far. Ultimately, the date was strip dodgeball and whoever lost, walked home naked. And here’s what I think about this: if this were flipped and it was the women being told to strip and walk back naked, there would be an uproar, so why sexualize the men’s bodies? Now, do I care if the women or men get naked during dates? Not at all, as long as everyone on the date doesn’t feel pressured to say yes and everything is consensual. If you want to get naked, get naked. If you don’t, don’t. There should be no shame either way. Being told to walk home naked though does seem like a lot.
Either way the date proceeds. The red team wins and gets time with Clare. The blue team loses and are sent home packing (no pun intended) and then sit their naked butts on the couches. Why are men like this? Blake Moynes was on the blue team and he wasn’t accepting his defeat. So he gets dressed and heads back to talk to Clare.
Of course, the red team men didn’t appreciate Blake Moynes showing up because “hE lOsT aNd ShOuLd’Nt bE hEre!” and interrupts Jay’s conversation. Blake gets a second with Clare and then cue the West Side Story stroll in of Jay and company. Like were they going to have a dance battle? That would have been more entertaining for sure. Clare sends Blake back to the house.
But wait, it gets more awkward…
Clare sits down with Brandon. Brandon tells her that he was so happy when she was announced as the Bachelorette on GMA. But when Clare asked him what about her he was excited for, all this man could come up with is that she is pretty. It was nice knowing you, Brandon. Now, I’m not saying he needs to know everything about Clare but it could have been stated differently. What he could have said instead was that he doesn’t know who she is or anything about her from past shows, but he would love and is excited to get to know her. I feel that would have gone over better. It felt like he was pretending to know who she was already. Or he just froze. Either way, he was sent home.
Group Date Rose: Chasen
Sent Home: Brandon
Not much happens here except Yosef and his toxic masculinity starts to boil, Clare gives Blake Moynes reassurance that he’s doing everything right, and then she blindfolds Dale and gives him a lot of kisses. And then we’re hit with a classic to be continued. But lucky for you due to my procrastination, the week three recap is half a scroll away. You’re welcome.
The Bachelorette Week 3 Recap
Okay, The Bachelorette Week 3 recap starts here and there’s even more chaos. Does production have too much of a hand in this season? Why’re the editing Clare as the villain? Are they editing out Dale’s personality? And why do some men think it’s okay to grab you by the neck to try and kiss you? We’ll get into all of this now.
Cocktail Part Continued: Yosef, Get TF Out
So we pick up where we left off last week and that’s with Yosef getting mad about a date he wasn’t even on. Now listen, I’ve said my peace on last week’s strip dodgeball game, it wasn’t the best move but it’s over and done with. AND THE MAN WASN’T EVEN ON THE DATE! He called Clare “classless” and then he brings his daughter into the conversation. I do not like men that use their children – especially their daughters – as a, “Hey, look at me I’m a good person because I’m a single father”. Just because you’re a parent doesn’t make you any better than anyone else. And in this case, it’s making Yosef look worse to me.
Yosef then said he expected more from the oldest bachelorette and called the dodgeball date immature. Like dude, take a deep breathe you weren’t even on the damn date! Clare tried to get a word in and Yosef wouldn’t let her (because the toxic masculinity was JUMPING out). She tried talking about her sick mother and, uh, he wouldn’t let her which is disgusting.
Okay, but who let this guy in here…?
Then Clare gave us her iconic Juan Pablo moment again when she said to Yosef, “Never in a million years did I think I would have to utter these words again. Do not ever talk to me like that. I never thought I’d ever have to tell any man that I would never want them to be the father of my child. And I stand by that. I would never want my children to have a father like you. Get outta here.”
To which Yosef replied with, “You’re not fit to be the mother to my child.” Like yes, Yosef, your child won’t see you strip on TV but she’ll see you acting like an absolutely rude man throwing an unnecessary fit on TV. Yosef’s complaint about Clare’s date being “immature” and “classless” is ironic after all those women he played but whatever. And she finally gives us the empowering line I love so much and that she “didn’t settle for men like THAT!” Yes, ma’am!
Clare sent his sorry ass home. Thank God. Then Dale comes to comfort her. And then in an ITM, she said she’s falling in love with Dale. Full speed ahead, folks.
Who Left: Yosef
Who Left: Garin, Blake Monar, and Tyler S.
Before we get on with the show, former Bachelorette and friend of Clare’s, DeAnna Stagliano pops in to chat. What was shown was Clare only talking about Dale and randomly pulling out his pants to smell. According to DeAnna, this is what actually happened.
Group Date: Mini Fantasy Suite for Dale
The first group date this week consisted of Jason, Jay, Eazy, Chasen, Blake, Ed, Riley, and Dale. The men sat around all day when Clare decided to cancel the day portion of the date (see the above link about DeAnna for why this happened). Instead, they just have a cocktail party night at Clare’s. Dale grabs Clare first and they head to her room to makeout…for a really long time. They’re occupied together for so long that one of the other men make a joke about sending out a search party for Dale. Eazy is the one brave enough to go steal Clare from Dale.
Eazy makes his way into Clare’s place while Dale is just chilling there. Dale leaves so Clare can have small talk with Eazy and a few other men. Then Dale is brave enough to steal her again from Jay and Clare invites him in. Everything is super awkward like Clare isn’t even trying to make it not obvious that she likes Dale the most. I’m here for Clare finding love and I will be thrilled for her if she finds her person in Dale. And I would love even more for Dale that he would be the first Black man to be the front-runner -that’s amazing. What I’m not loving is how Clare handles some things nor do I love the edit she’s getting from producers.
We don’t need to make either of them the villain. Yes, to some extent I feel bad for the guys but also not really. It’s not like they gave us their whole lives and went off to war. They’re on The Bachelorette. They got a free vacation during COVID instead of sitting on their couches every day. It’s whatever at this point. Everyone needs to take a breath and calm down.
Group Date Rose: Dale
One-on-One Date: No Means No
Zach J., aka fart box guy, gets the one-on-one this week. They get a spa date. Clare is living for it. Zach isn’t and hates getting a pedicure. Clare then gives him an avocado mask. Then they went to the pool and that’s where things started to get weird. She was getting out of the pool to go get ready for the evening portion of their date and went to kiss him. Clare went 90 and all Zach had to do was go 10. Instead, he didn’t move in and it lingered for a second before she pulled back embarrassed. It all happened so fast that I was confused at first. But she thought he didn’t want to kiss her and he was confused because he thought she’d go 100.
Clare went to walk away and this man grabbed her by the neck (it didn’t look forceful enough to hurt her but you still do not grab someone by the neck that does not want to kiss anymore). He followed her outside of the pool trying to talk about it and try again. She didn’t want to. He should have left it. If she changed her mind and didn’t want to kiss him anymore then he should have respected that. Clare has disclosed being in an abusive relationship before so I imagine this was very triggering for her.
The evening date ends with Chris Harrison coming to tell Zach Clare isn’t coming and is sending him home. I don’t think it’s bad of her to have sent Chris Harrison to end the date, especially if what he did to her earlier triggered her to be fearful.
Group Date: Let’s Roast Dale
The second group date of the night includes Joe, Bennett, Brendan, Kenny, Ben, Jordan, Ivan, Zac C., and Demar. For this date, it’s a comedic roast with Margaret Cho. And for some extra spice, all the men not on the date are the audience members which means Dale is right in the front row. The roasts by the men were weak. Literally only Margaret’s were funny. All the guys did was rip on Dale which was boring and only would put more of a distance between themselves and Clare sending her further into Dale’s arms.
In her ITM, Clare found it distasteful that they ripped on Dale so much. She said, ” “So what, I have feelings for Dale! We have a connection. You can’t hate on love, though. You can’t hate on it”. Again, I don’t love how Clare acts sometimes or how she handles some situations but she’s not wrong. At the end of the day, she has more of a connection with Dale, and the men making fun of it will only put more of a wedge and give them even less of a chance.
Later that evening, it’s edited to make it seem like all Clare talks about is Dale to every guy. We all know how long these dates go on for so I’m sure this isn’t all the conversations was about. She doesn’t give anyone the group date rose and she’s heard talking to a producer saying, “I really don’t think I can sit there and go, ‘You dished on my fiancé so hard…’ Like, I can’t be doing that. It doesn’t feel right.” But it’s a frankenbite. The men are getting more upset which I also understand but also no one told them to all rip on Dale as hard as they could.
Group Date Rose: Nobody
The Bachelorette Week 2 + 3 Conclusion
Well, folks here comes the moment we’ve been waiting for: Ms. Tayshia Adams. Her teaser was beautiful and I’m so excited for her as the lead and see how everything literally blows up. But while I thought Tayshia’s opener was her looking fantastic, Rachel Lindsay talked about the over-sexualization of Black women and that’s important to recognize. No other Bachelorette has gotten an intro like that so why Tayshia? It’s worth having a conversation over.
How’re you guys feeling about the season? Are you team Clare and Dale? Is there anyone you would love to see with Tayshia?
Stay safe this election week, friends, and I’ll (hopefully) see you all again later this week for week four’s recap.
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