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10 Things This Introverted and Socially Anxious Communication Major is Tired of Hearing

If you didn’t know, I’m currently a senior communication major and creative writing minor. I started college with my major declared in August 2016 and I’m graduating in December. And I love my major, but I hate talking about it. Why? Because no one understands what exactly it is, the hard work it actually endures, and the fact that I’m very introverted and have a substantial amount of social anxiety.

I’m not sure when being a communication major became a joke but it has and it’s the most frustrating thing. On top of the major just being a joke to people, imagine being socially anxious AND a communication major. It’s double the jokes and double the judgment. And I am over it.

Although I know it’s not the hardest major in the world compared to Med or Law school or STEM majors, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy-breezy. Can we stop playing the “(insert major here) isn’t as hard as (insert major here)”. Can’t we just all agree that college is hard? There is no need to play that game because we are all working hard to do something we are passionate about. It’s always been a pet peeve of mine when anyone is like, “oh, you don’t have it as hard as me” or things like, “oh, you’re tired? You’re not as tired as me because I’ve done XYZ!”. It drives me crazy. Like what are you accomplishing by saying things like that aloud? That you’re much more hardworking and like to put other people down to make you feel superior? No thanks, that’s not my jam.

Basically, college is hard and all majors offer their own challenges and demands.

So, here are 10 things this introverted and socially anxious communication major is tired of hearing:

“What’s your major?” “Communication.” “Oh…that’s cool.”

I’m sorry but you literally need a communication person in every single job you had. If you didn’t, you would notice the difference.

“Wow! You must be failing because you’re so quiet!”

I get that one at least once a month and it drives me up a wall. I’m quiet, but that doesn’t mean I can’t talk and get my point across when I need to.

“So, you just want to be on TV?”

Absolutely not.

“You’re learning how to communicate with people? We all know how to do that.”

Do we all know how to do that? Would your boyfriend/girlfriend say that you’re great at communicating? Can you keep a positive tone when you have to explain yourself five different times through several different mediums for all people to understand what you’re trying to say?

“You get to analyze films and TV shows for homework? That must be so easy!”

You’re right it is easy to have to look at several different aspects from Social Identity Theory, Feminist or Marxist perspective, and semiotics is totally easy and relaxing.

“Posting to social media is easy, we all do it. How hard can that be?”

Oh, really? It’s easy? SEO, editing, analytics, coming up with new content on the daily for several different platforms? But you’re right, posting a photo on Instagram every now and then is totally the same thing.

“You have the easiest major. How hard can communication theory actually be?”

Everything’s constantly changing in technology and theory, but you’re right. Totally easy. It’s not like my textbook from 2016 is already outdated in its information or anything.

“You’re anxious to talk to people and you’re a communication major? It’s not a big deal, just do it.”

This is not only frustrating as a student but also as someone with anxiety it is the most dishearting and annoying thing to hear. Just because I’m anxious doesn’t mean I can’t do it and do it well. It just makes it harder for us. For example, public speaking makes me want to throw-up and drop out of school, but I got a 100% in my Persuasion speech class so…thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

“Don’t you have to be a people-person to do this?”

I’m talking to you, aren’t I? Someone who would say something rude like this? Clearly, I learned how to fake it and handle it.

“…so what can you do with that degree anyways? It’s so broad.”

Literally anything. Anything I want. That’s exactly why I majored in this so I won’t feel stuck to one thing if my interests evolve over time.

I was nervous to start my major because I am introverted and socially anxious, but honestly, I wouldn’t want any major. Sure, it comes with its extra challenges for me, but I’ve made it this far so I must be doing something half-right.

Are any of you a communication major? Or just frustrated by things you hear in regards to your major? I want to hear them – leave all your rants in the comments.

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  1. Denise H says:

    I can’t believe these are some of the things that get said to you! People can be so ridiculous, sometimes I wish they’d stay quiet and leave each to their own. Now, that’s something that’s “not that hard” !

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      Oh, it’s so ridiculous and I don’t know how to respond to people when they say it haha. I totally agree with you that it’s not that hard to not saying anything if you don’t have anything nice to say. Isn’t that one of the golden rules when we were young? Thank you for reading, I really appreciate it!🤗💕

  2. Oh I love this post!! I can’t belive some peoples thoughts, it is crazy. You keep doing what you are doing Kellie – You are amazing!

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      I really appreciate that, Hannah! Thank you so much🤗💕

  3. Okay this was one of the most fun blog posts I’ve read from your blog and I’m here for it!! I LOVEEEEEED your incorporation of gifs, made me so happy and def think you should do it more because I HAD A JAM going through it!! My major is Professional Writing & Communication, so I have feel like I can relate with the Comm part LOL! The part in the beginning where you said, “Although I know it’s not the hardest major in the world compared to Med or Law school or STEM majors, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy-breezy. Can we stop playing the “(insert major here) isn’t as hard as (insert major here)”. I’m not kidding I think about this stuff ALL THE TIME, like even yesterday and the day before that. And sometimes it gets me down, ’cause I think law or med students, or people studying math, must have it SO MUCH HARDER, but then I think, not everyone is called out to a creative lifestyle, and as much fun as it is, it is crazy hard work as well! You’re so right, we all work towards our passion and that’s all that matters! It’s so annoying that you have to hear all of these people’s judgements, but girl you’re doing an amazing job proving them wrong just by living your life and succeeding. That’ll show them <3

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      You’re the absolute sweetest and kindest soul, thank you so much, Carina!! I totally agree that sometimes I find myself complaining about all the different work I have to get done and then I’m like but (insert major here) probably has it worse. Which is totally rude to do to me because it’s a different type of challenge. I can’t do law or nursing, but I’m sure those students can’t write or design like me and they would find that challenging. Being creative is freaking hard sometimes! Ugh, I just love and appreciate you so dang much! And a ginormous congratulations to you for finishing university – I’m so SO proud of you and you’ve worked really hard and it shows. I hope you’re in the ultimate state of relaxation right now💕

  4. Um… wait… People actually say “You must be failing because you’re so quiet?” That makes me so mad! But seriously, everything people have said to you about your major is so messed up! I didn’t know people thought of the communication major that way! I’ve always thought it’s a really cool major that must take a lot of work. I was doing Marriage and Family Studies for awhile (now I’m doing Family Sciences, which doesn’t sound much better haha) and people said a lot of similar things. I mostly heard, “Oh, are you just doing that so you can get through school, find a husband, and then stay home with your kids?” Ugh, people are so dumb. I’m so proud of you for all the hard work you’re doing! I’m happy I have you in my life because we’re both sensitive and kind to others. We both value other people being respectful and kind to us. You’re awesome! Also, these GIFS are on point haha. They had me cracking up. Love you Kellie!

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      Unfortunately, yes people have actually told me I must be failing because I don’t talk. On more than one occasion. It really upset me at the beginning of college because I do try my hardest and I do have to work a little more because of my anxiety and introvert ways but now I’m just annoyed and don’t really answer people when they say it because I’ve had enough haha. And people have said that to you?? That’s so ridiculous if that was your goal why would you be paying all that money for a degree omg. People make me so mad when they talk about things they don’t have much if any, knowledge on. Thank you so much – I really needed to hear that honestly haha. Love you so much, Coral!!🤗🖤

  5. Susan says:

    Hello! I saw your post on Pinterest and I just had to click it. Mainly because I can relate to everything you’ve said as an introverted communications major. Thank you for this amazing blog. I really appreciated knowing I’m not the only one!

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      Hi Susan! Thank you so much for reading – I’m so happy to hear that someone relates to this. I appreciate this very much💕

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