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6 Ways to Keep Going When You’re Feeling Defeated

I know a lot of people that blog, do YouTube, or anything in the creative realm that we tend to get the most support from people online that we’ve never met than those in our “real” life. I find that to be the strangest thing. It’s been something that has been weighing on me for a while, but I realized something. As nice as it is to hear people praise you and your work if you wait your whole life for it, what’s the point. Looking back at everything I’ve done for this blog and how much it has evolved, I’m proud of myself. I’ve put in work and care that most people may not recognize, and that’s okay because I recognize it. And I’m proud of it.

Turning my cheek for the sake of this show. Now that you know, this is my life. I won’t be told what’s supposed to be right

– Kelly Clarkson

I’m not saying that since my realization that I don’t ever feel annoyed, because I certainly do. It can be the most frustrating, infuriating, and defeating thing to me, but I try not to stay in that mindset too long. I let myself feel the emotions and then I take it as motivation to prove others wrong.

Here are 6 ways that I try to keep going when I’m feeling defeated:

6 Ways to Keep Going When You’re Feeling Defeated

Tell Yourself You’re Proud of You

It’s easy to get discouraged when you see others getting constant support for something and you’re really not getting it. As much as validation is encouraging, sometimes you just have to pick yourself up off the ground, look back at everything you’ve accomplished thus far, and tell yourself that you’re proud of you. Give yourself the validation you need. You work hard, too even if your craft or efforts aren’t recognized.


I’ve found myself talking to anyone willing to listen to me lately because there’s just so much going on in my life right now and I can’t keep it all inside. Sometimes you just need to let it all out and get a second opinion on your situation.


This is something I never really remember to do and my boyfriend has to tell me to take a few deep breaths if I’m getting really worked up about something. There’s something about it that helps me feel grounded when I’m getting anxious or upset.

Mute, Unfollow, Delete, Block

Social media is a huge part of my life. Between my job and blogging, I’m never not on social media it feels like. There are some days that I can feel it bothering me more than others. If I don’t want the drama of unfollowing someone I just mute them so I don’t have to see anything they’re doing (or copying) and I unfollow accounts that make me feel like my content isn’t good. You don’t need those added stresses. Get rid of it.


My favorite thing to do when life is not going too hot for me, I think about what my life will be like in just a few years. That tends to calm me down.

Take a Break

Your work will be there when you return. You don’t have to do everything at once, allow yourself to take a break. Little breaks to break up large amounts of work are more effective anyway. Besides being burnt out doesn’t create the best work either, trust me.

Just one day at a time. You’ll get there and you’ll prove yourself and others wrong with your magic. I’m so SO grateful for my little internet family, you’re literally the best and more supportive friends that I’ve had in my life.

What are some things that you do to help yourself out of a defeating mood?

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  1. Aww I’m so proud of you and your blog and everything you are girl! Loved these tips! It’s so true, sometimes all we have is ourselves. No-one else can pick us up like we can-because we have no choice, we have to. And I think there’s such strength, magic, and resilience there. Because people will never truly know your fight-and your capabilities. I’m always chanting to myself how proud I am for my creative accomplishments, it def helps! And I’m always always daydreaming. If I feel stuck, I think of my future success, waiting to be created, and knowing that what I’m doing now, is paving a way for exactly that. Just keep breathin’ and breathin’ and breattthhiiin’ (Hahha love that Ariana song ^_^). Keep breathing girl, and I’m always here when you need to vent! <3

    1. Kellie Marie says:

      Why are you literally the sweetest person in the world!? I’m so freaking happy that I internet-met you!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I’m literally so proud of you, too – you’re killing the game everywhere and it’s so exciting to watch! And you’re so right that literally, no one knows how hard we fight except for us and even though it sucks sometimes it’s always people that we call badass babes that don’t care about outside validation because they are giving it to themselves! (I’m totally obsessed with that Ariana song, too haha) I’m always here for you too, girl – I can talk for days about stuff haha. But seriously thank you so much again, it means so much💕

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