A new month always feels like a blank slate to me, especially with Fall right around the corner. There’s something about the crisp air and the leaves changing colors that feel symbolic. It’s a new chance to start over, turn bad habits into beneficial ones, and to let go of things you can’t change no matter how badly you want to – and reminding yourself of the importance of positivity.
The negativity can be overwhelming…
Unfortunately, about a week ago I received a few messages with nothing but absolute anger, negativity, and just being downright mean from someone I shouldn’t be hearing these things from. However, I have been fortunate enough for that to be the only thing said to me that has been negative about starting a blog only a few weeks ago. I have had some of the kindest words said to me that were filled with love and support and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.
I typically try not to let these things bother me because that’s giving the other person what they want – a reaction out of me. But as a human, harsh words can hurt and there’s nothing you can do about how you feel. On the other hand, you can handle how you respond to the situation. What you do about the negativity thrown at you says a lot about who you are as a person. You must try to rise above the negativity.
It’s impossible to be positive all the time. It’s even more detrimental to your mental health if you’re negative all the time. The best approach that I have been taking to life lately is getting rid of anything and everyone that no longer serves a beneficial purpose in my life – regardless of who they are. You can only give someone/something so many chances before it’s time to let it be and carry on without them. If it no longer serves a beneficial purpose, there is no point in keeping it around.
Being positive can feel impossible sometimes. But if you work on it little by little each day, it will become a habit. You can retrain your brain to think more positive than negative. If you catch yourself thinking something negative instantly counteract it with a positive one.
I love what I do…
I created this blog because I love to write and I love makeup and clothes. I’m not a professional blogger. And nor do I think I’m a beauty guru in the slightest. I do it because I think it’s fun and it makes me happy. You shouldn’t be put down for things you love to do and that brings you happiness (as long as you aren’t harming yourself or others). If anything, I can only hope that when people talk to me they leave feeling just a little happier than before. And I’ll admit that I know that doesn’t happen all the time, everyone makes mistakes. We sometimes say hurtful things when we’re feeling really emotional or stressed.
But if we just remove ourselves from that situation, even for just a moment, to gain a realistic perspective and ask yourself if what you’re about to say will help or harm a situation. And if it’s harmful, simply don’t say it to them. Every mother’s favorite phrase to say when their children are growing up is, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”. Cliché as it is, it’s true. You get back what you put out into this world.
The Importance of Positivity Conclusion
So, give them something to talk about. I am living my life to make myself happy. Not them. The ones talking negatively are the ones who are insecure or feel stuck in their lives. They’re looking for anything and everything to project their negativity onto. It’s important that we don’t fall into their cycle and continue the chain reaction of negativity, and instead override it with love and positivity. But it’s worth mentioning when discussing the importance of positivity is to be careful of identifying and avoiding toxic positivity. Being positive is great but it’s just as important and healthy to feel all your feelings as you have them.
What do you do to try and stay positive when everything seems negative?