The Bachelor Finale Pt. 1
We finally got to find out who Peter’s mom has been crying about for the past 10 weeks, and come to find out that Barb is actually this season’s villain. There were a lot of things I hated about this episode, I felt critical of Madison as I have been but empathized with her, too. And who would have thought we were all about to be heartbroken for Hannah Ann at this point? The only redeeming thing about this episode was the baby kangaroos. Let’s get into The Bachelor finale recap, shall we?
Before Peter brings any of the women in to meet his parents, he has a chat with Barb and Peter Sr. to catch them up to speed. And he does a horrible job of describing both women. He essentially led with Hannah Ann being the perfect woman and then saying they’ve met Madison before on their first one-on-one and that there have been problems. Barb is SHOCKED to hear that Madison wouldn’t sleep with her son. And that is the very beginning of learning how manipulative his mother is and probably why Peter is the way that he is. Barb also asks Peter if the women have said they love him yet. Again, she is SHOCKED to hear that Madison has not said it yet. My boy, Jack, is the voice of reason saying that if Peter can get over Madison’s ultimatum, then so can they.
— Luggage Guy Trent (@BarstoolTrent) March 10, 2020
Hannah Ann Meets the Fam
Right off the bat, Hannah Ann begins tearing up. Which is a fair move at this point because she knows Peter loves himself a crier – and it’s crunch time so cry away, baby. In her ITM, she shares that, “I want to walk away and [have] them know, ‘That girl loves our son.’” And this is where I get kinda emotional because I know that feeling all too well. That feeling of loving a man so wholeheartedly, with zero doubts and just wanting to convey that to his family. Except in my case, it didn’t work out. But on the plus side for Hannah Ann, it did work!
Barb tells her husband that when she looks at Hannah Ann and Peter, she sees them. A bold statement for knowing the woman about 10 minutes probably. But I guess we know where Peter gets his grand statements from. During Hannah Ann and Barb’s chat, Barb tells Hannah Ann she wants a woman to marry Peter that loves him with all her heart. Hannah Ann then knows she’s got it in the bag because she’s never had a connection with a man so deeply to think about a future together before. More tears. The Weber family loves tears.
During Hannah Ann’s chat with Peter’s father, she tells him that it felt like love at first sight. Peter Sr. sees they are compatible and she is genuine. And that’s that. Now, it’s time for a father-son chat. Peter Sr. asks his son if his heart is pulling more in one direction or another. Of course, hopelessly confused Peter says that “I see what I have with Hannah Ann, but my heart is with Madi as well”. We get no definitive answer. I mean clearly Madison is making it not easy, and Hannah Ann is making it easy for him. So by male-law, he is inevitably drawn to Madison more. Oh, and Peter cries. His dad offers him support when Peter says he doesn’t know what he’s going to do. And that’s the end of that day.
— Marissa🌸 (@mbrowwww) March 10, 2020
Madison Meets the Fam
And this whole date is where I get really mad. It’s no secret I’m not Madison’s biggest fan and I’ve been critical of her. I respect her decision for wanting to save herself for marriage and wanting a man who also saves himself for her. The reality of it all is that Peter and she just aren’t it. They want it to be them in the end, but it’s just not plausible nor sustainable. They are two very different people.
Before Madison and Peter go in to meet his parents, they sit down to talk. This is when I find Madison to be completely irritating and a tad manipulative. The moment she says that Peter is a big boy in her ITM it’s condescending and sets the tone for their talk. Their talk just goes in circles and doesn’t really cover anything new that hasn’t been said before. Madison has a right to feel hurt BUT at this point, she has accepted Peter’s rose which is an indication that she wants to move forward in this relationship with Peter. Which means she has to move past the incident of the fantasy suites.
If they were to be in a relationship together, Madison would hold this over his head constantly and make passive-aggressive remarks to Peter. And that isn’t fair to him or her. This relationship wouldn’t be good for either of them. Why? Because at the end of the day they just aren’t compatible and their lifestyles don’t match up. Plain and simple.
I do understand where Madison is coming from. I wouldn’t want to accept a proposal either if a week prior he slept with someone else. But I also understand where Peter is coming from when physical touch and intimacy is important to him in a relationship and the fact that he’s not just only dating Madison. It’s a struggle. But again, when two people are so different and reach an impasse like this, it’s sadly time to say goodbye because this ain’t it. Eventually and indirectly, Madison says that she loves Peter and this man is very happy.
PETER TRYNA PARTY madi tryna go to bible study #TheBachelor
— Demi Burnett (@demi_burnett) March 10, 2020
Well, Barb is wearing the outfit. You know the yellow sweater over a white tee and hoop earrings. It’s time for the moment we’ve all been waiting for. We finally find out who Barb is blubbering over. But not without a really tense and awkward meeting of the parents.
Here’s where I start feeling bad for Madison. The way Peter’s family treated her and interrogated the hell out of her was awful. I’ve been there. I know how it feels to have a boyfriend’s family just not like you for literally zero reasons other than you’re going to replace them as the guy’s number one priority. No one should ever be made to feel uncomfortable for no reason. And no parents should think that’s acceptable behavior. Because it’s gross and can have lasting effects on someone.
Basically Madison said she didn’t want Peter sleeping with the other women during fantasy suite week but she does still love him and sees a future with him. Appalled, Barb and Peter Sr. still want answers. Madison sits down to talk to papa Weber. He asks her if there are any differences about them that bother her. In so many words, she basically says that he’s not as religious as she hoped but hopes he’ll change. And that’s a red flag. It’s hard for people to change especially on stances as major as religion. But she does want what’s best for Peter. And by that, I hope she means in a person and not “the best” meaning for him to become religious because that’s not right either.
Meanwhile, Jack and Peter are talking about Peter’s wild life of piloting, line dancing, and sex. You know, just two brothers hanging out talking about their sex lives. Totally not weird or anything. Jack straight-up asks Peter if he could abstain from sex until marriage if he were to choose Madison. Without hesitation, Peter says yes. But then he says relationships are about compromising parts of who you are. Another red flag. Compromising is sitting through hours of Dungeon and Dragon games and then getting quality one-on-one time. You do not compromise parts of who you are. That’s resentment waiting to happen.
All throughout the night, Peter keeps saying that his family doesn’t know Madison like he does. And that’s when you know the relationship is doomed.
Thank God for this guy pointing out that Peter’s wild side might not be compatible with Madi. I mean, line dancing all night? That’s basically a gateway to the electric slide and nobody wants that. #thebachelor pic.twitter.com/fVYtZNVcVk
— College Park Mom (@lindsayoz) March 10, 2020
Madison vs. Barb
Now it’s time for the worst part of the whole date. Barb really starts showing her weird obsession with her son’s sex life and sorta-kinda definitely shaming Madison for her faith. As I’ve said before, I respect Madison’s faith and her morals I just haven’t been loving how she’s been handling it. But when it came time for Madison and Barb to speak, I was on Madison’s side. Barb starts by saying that her son is more spiritual than religious – which is fine.
But then she crosses the line into crazy future MIL by saying, “He socializes, he parties. It seems like you two have a little bit — actually, not a little bit, quite a bit, different lifestyles,” and that phrasing was just rude and could have been put in a kinder way. Barb doesn’t want her little Peter to change and wants him to get with whomever he chooses and didn’t like Madison’s ultimatum. In a polite but firm response, Madison said, “I didn’t tell him what to do. All I said was, it’s going to be hard for me to work through this if this happens”.
At one point, Madison talks over Barb and that gave me anxiety just thinking about doing that to someone’s parents. But honestly, go Madison (never thought I’d say that). In her ITM leaving, Madison says, “What an emotional, hard, long, exhausting day. We are kind of on different pages in what we want, what we need, what we expect, how we live, like, literally in every way. I think going into tomorrow, I have to think about what’s best”. Which can only mean one thing, folks. A breakup is on the horizon – and Peter has no idea.
— brieandsauv (@brieandsauv) March 10, 2020
When Madison leaves, Peter goes back in to talk to his family. Almost immediately once Peter sits down, his mother starts crying. And like the rest of America, Peter is confused and asking her what’s wrong. As if Barb didn’t just criticize Madison for her faith, she tells Peter that she prayed God would put the women for him in his path – and it ain’t Madison. Barb continues with her anti-Madison campaign telling Peter isn’t there for him.
When it comes to bringing the dramatics, Barb wins because this woman goes on to say, “You have a gem waiting for you who is madly, head-over-heels in love with you. And God put her there for you. Madison is a sweet girl, lovely girl but Hannah Ann is an angel on earth”. She continues carrying on with, “All I can do is pray that God enlightens him and sends him a sign of who the right girl is,” and “A mother’s intuition is never wrong”. This is manipulation at it’s finest. Sometimes, when it comes to your children’s relationships, you don’t always know best.
They bring up Hannah Brown and saying, “bud” five thousand times. Peter says he hears what his family is saying but they don’t know Madison like he does and they just have to trust him. Cue Barb crying again telling him that Hannah Ann loves him with all her heart. And the moment we’ve all been waiting for, “Bring her home. Bring her home to us. We will welcome her with open arms… She’s a dream come true, and God has placed her there for you! And that’s what love stories are made of!”. But it was about Hannah Ann. I did not see that coming.
And here’s where I start to feel bad for Peter now. Because he’s grown up with a mommy manipulator and that sucks. But he stands up to her and says, “You’ve gotta stop doing this. You’ve gotta stop doing this! No, you’ve gotta stop! It’s literally destroying me right now, you push me… Please, don’t do that to me”. Poor Pete. Finally, Peter says that he wants Madison more than anything. A bold statement.
— Bachelor Bob (@BachelorBob_) March 10, 2020
Madison and Peter’s Final Date
Peter and Madison begin their date with a helicopter ride around Uluru. In her ITM, Madison says, “I do love Peter…As great as our relationship is when we’re together, I do now see that we are very different people… We have fought, we haven’t given up, but I’ve just realized, you know, it’s kinda time to surrender.”
When they land, they have a cute picnic with sparkling apple juice. Uh…after that night with his mother wine is needed. Lots and lots of wine. Peter gives a toast that their relationship is as strong as the rocks surrounding him.
The breakup speech begins by her saying that she wants this so bad but neither of them is seeing clearly right now. Madison goes on to say, “As much as we want this, I don’t know that we can, like, give each other what we need. “Sometimes I think being a great warrior… is knowing when to surrender”. And she ends her speech by saying that she’s walking away so Peter can get what he came here for.
Clearly confused because he didn’t see it coming, Peter says, “You told me yesterday that you wanted to tell me on the tower that you did love me. Now, it’s like a couple days later and this conversation is happening — it makes absolutely no sense to me.” and I felt that. It all circles back to the fantasy suite week. A sad end to their relationship with bugs buzzing around their head.
In her ride home, Madison says that she’s going to miss him forever…or will she?
Why do they look like a 40 year old father and 13 year old daughter on a “Daddy is Getting Remarried” picnic? pic.twitter.com/pblFVddRqF
— Gay Bachelor Bitch 🌹 (@BGaytion) March 10, 2020
Hannah Ann and Peter’s Final Date
Before Peter goes on his final date with Hannah Ann, he has a chat with Chris Harrison. He tells Chris that he’s mourning his relationship with Madison but is also in love with Hannah Ann. OR he’s using her as a crutch as a way to not deal with the breakup. Then Chris asks if Peter can get over this heartbreak and Peter, not giving any straight answers, says he doesn’t know – it’s all up in the air.
Did y’all know that according to the Internet, Hannah Ann can’t possibly get engaged because she looks 16? That’s been my biggest annoyance. Someone can’t help how young or old they look nor does that equate to being ready for marriage. I guess the internet didn’t learn anything from Rachel Lindsay’s segment last week. But can we also talk about how Hannah Ann had no idea during the whole date that Peter was heartbroken and Madison was gone? Crazy.
On their date, they go to a kangaroo sanctuary with a handsome Australian man and take care of the cutest baby kangaroos I’ve ever seen. Peter in his ITM, fully acknowledging that he’s heartbroken, says, “I see exactly what I have in front of me, and it’s the most perfect woman,” and Hannah is someone he wants to, “pick first, every day, and every day for the rest of my life”. Sheesh, this is messy.
— I decided to pass away (@ash_victory15) March 10, 2020
But Hannah Ann is a smart cookie and knows something is off with Peter. By the end of the night, Hannah Ann is looking all cute and dressed up and Peter walks in as if he got dressed in the dark. In her final attempt to secure that ring, she says to Peter, “Tomorrow is a big day. I hope I’m the person that makes you the happiest. I hope I’m the person that makes you feel the most loved”. Basically, Peter tells her he’s never questioned where her heart is, but his heart is being pulled in two different directions.
Understandably, Hannah Ann didn’t like hearing that. She tells him, “it just hurts when I’m so sure, and you’re not. I’ve given, and I’ve given, and I’ve given, and I just want something in return. You just seem not, you know, completely there, like I am”. As someone who didn’t like Hannah Ann at first, I feel awful for her.
To Be Continued…
Chris Harrison is still telling us that what’s about to happen tomorrow night is unlike anything we’ve seen before. These words mean nothing to this man. This is an absolutely messy and chaotic finale. For it being the finale, I don’t feel a lot of love nor very strongly for either of the final women. Chris is also still insisting that even Peter doesn’t know how this season ends – which is insane. Can Hannah Brown still win this someway somehow? Oh, and Madison apparently comes back. Well just scroll down to see who Barb is crying about now on Tuesday’s episode.
— Kellie (@kellie__mariee) March 10, 2020
The Bachelor Finale Pt. 2
And we’re back. We are finally about to be put out of our misery that is this season. I am angry. I am absolutely SEETHING, folks. Nothing like a trash ending to a trash season. Congratulations, Peter, you have joined the ranks of all the rest (i.e Jason Mesnick and Arie). Yes, folks, the ole switch-a-roo happened yet again on The Bachelor finale. Good lord, I never wanted a season to end so badly before. Yes, there were technical “winners” tonight, but there were no winners. Everyone lost here. Let’s get this final recap of the Bachelor finale over with.
Is Barb the awful momster-in-law all women fear they will marry into? Yes. Was I irrationally angry watching this finale? Yes. But did Barb make good television? Absolutely. However, once you remember Madison is a real person with real feelings having to deal with Barb, the fun of the show is taken away. Having dealt with something similar with past significant others’ family members (not as extreme but still uncomfortable), I felt anxious and angry watching because I know how Madison is probably feeling. And the frustrating feeling of Madison didn’t do anything to even be treated like Barb is treating her. So here’s the thing, men do not let anyone – your mother or other family members – treat your significant other like that while you sit idle and do/say nothing in their defense. It makes you look like a coward and that you don’t value the person you’re dating.
— Kellie (@kellie__mariee) March 11, 2020
Just like everything that was teased this season, another letdown. As previewed in the first episode, Chris Harrison comes to tell Peter that him and the crew just found something out and Peter freaks out. Was it Madison coming back? Did Hannah Brown just win Dancing With the Stars and want him there to celebrate? Nope and nope. Chris Harrison wasn’t sure if Hannah Ann was going to show up to the proposal. Cut to Hannah Ann laying across her bed in her beautiful dress all stressed out. Then cut to Peter laying across a bed in a suit all stressed out. You know, just proposal day moods.
Peter does ask if Hannah Ann knows Madison is gone. Why did he not tell her that himself? Tell Hannah Ann that Madison sent herself home? This man, y’all. Well turns out, ole Chris stressed Peter out for no reason because he essentially came back in going lol just kidding bro, she’s on her way. Thanks, Chris.
Hannah Ann shows up, still looking flawless. Peter finally tells her that Madison left. Just left. Not that she sent herself home and he’s been an absolute mess over it. But in his proposal, he mentions Madison which made me think he called Hannah Ann by the wrong name and had a Ross Geller moment. But thankfully not.
Peter proposes to Hannah Ann. It’s totally happily ever after, right? Hannah Ann is in complete shock that she gets to love Peter forever. Or does she…
Well, Peter makes his way back home to his wack-job of a mother to reveal who he chose. Barb brings the dramatics as she holds her other son’s hand and her husband as Peter draws out who he chose. As soon as he says he chose Hannah Ann, Barb cries and cries freaking out with happiness as if she didn’t manipulate her son into picking her. They FaceTime Hannah Ann and all is good in the Weber world. Or is it…
— kim is waiting for acnh (@kimrosa_) March 11, 2020
Happily Never After
But then the camera crews follow Peter and Hannah Ann on a happy couple weekend. Meaning it’s not a happy couple weekend and what happened with Becca and Arie is about to happen here. Hannah Ann comes in and they say they haven’t seen each other in a month and it’s been hard and going to get harder. She said she wanted to continue being Peter’s rock but needs to know she’s not wasting her time here. Then from Disney Princess to a damn queen, she says, “When I said yes to you, like, I said yes to a partnership. And I said yes to us being teammates… But if you can’t give me that love in return, that’s not a relationship.” YES, GIRL.
And then cue Peter’s generic breakup line that almost every man uses with “I can’t do this, I’m sorry” ugh. But what he actually says is, “I never intended to give my heart to two people. I want so badly to be able to give you everything, give you my entire heart… and I can’t do that. I’m so sorry”. And Hannah Ann gets angry. We love angry Hannah Ann. She tells him he took her first engagement away from her.
Hannah Ann excuses herself to the bathroom to definitely get away from the cameras but if we learned anything from Arie chasing Becca around the house, that wasn’t going to happen. She gets angrier and I don’t blame her, “I said yes, and I get this? Why didn’t you just let me go… instead of taking this [the ring] away from me?”.
Peter apologizes some more and she snaps, “Sorry for what? For not being man enough to follow through with your words? For not being true to your words? Not being true to your feelings? Is that what you’re sorry for? Torn and conflicted Peter. And all throughout, I stood by your side. And you took the most precious moment that I could ever imagine away from me. Because you, selfishly, just did not want me to walk away.” BOOM. Roast him.
One last power move from Hannah Ann, “I can’t even look at you anymore. You’ve done enough damage. We’re done. And I mean that”. She gave him the ring back and headed for the door. Peter keeps trying to talk to her, but the queen isn’t having it. She says, “I’m going to get my life back on track now. Where it originally was before… I’ve been my own rock throughout this. You don’t have to worry about me”. I want Hannah Ann’s breakup eloquence because I was definitely just a tears and snotty mess.
— The ‘Clare’ not ‘Claire’ Diaries (@thebachdiaries) March 11, 2020
After the Final Rose: Hannah Ann and Peter
They hadn’t seen each other since that day, but now they have to come face to face. And Hannah Ann has got that breakup glow-up looking hot. We are here for it. Before she comes out, he looked sick and sad and said doing that to her tore his heart out. As it should have. He said his feelings for Madison were partly part of the breakup but more because he didn’t love her as she loved him. Lame. Not to mention this whole time there was a Barb-camera in the corner and she was cheering on Hannah Ann over her son. Please stop lady, you don’t do that to your family on national television, this isn’t Jerry Springer.
Hannah Ann walks out there guns-blazing. She said, “Walking in there and hearing for the first time that you couldn’t give me your full heart, that was very blindsiding. You knew exactly what to say to keep me with you…you knew how serious I was about an engagement….you told me things that kept me with you. Even after our breakup, you reached out to my parents saying that you were just processing your emotions and you wish more than anything we had met outside of reality TV. How does that make any sense?” Yes, girl, tear him apart. Peter offers more apologies but it ain’t good enough. She’s got more to say.
She tells him that he downplayed the whole Madison thing and that he waited until the last minute to tell her she was the only woman left there when he had two days to tell her that. He starts to sweat and says that she is right and that if he could he would do things differently.
Finally, Chris Harrison lets Hannah Ann have the final word and murder Peter. She reveals that Peter wanted to reach out to Hannah BROWN for closure and that’s three women involved in their engagement and that, “If you want to be with a woman, you need to become a real man“. And just like that Hannah Ann and Hannah Brown will become best friends here shortly.
— Kellie (@kellie__mariee) March 11, 2020
Papa Harrison Goes to Auburn, AL
But it’s STILL not over. It’s NEVER been over. Chris Harrison takes matters into his own hands and flies down to Auburn, Alabama to have a word with Madison. The big question here though is why did Peter just not go and do this himself?
Madison is surprised to see Chris at her house. She says that she hasn’t been doing great and that she’s been forcing herself to eat because she hasn’t wanted to or sleep – the classic break-up feels. Chris tells her that after she left Peter did get engaged to Hannah Ann. Madison looks really upset. Meanwhile, in the Barb-cam she’s rolling her eyes at Madison being upset and that got my blood boiling. I don’t hate a lot of people but I hate Barb the way she hates Madison.
Then Chris Harrison finally tells her that he broke off the engagement and he’s single. She asks if he’s okay and then gets weirdly happy. I guess her morals are out the door and girl code doesn’t apply here. It bummed me out that she didn’t ask what happened or how Hannah Ann was. But that’s just me.
Madison ends up flying to Peter’s home. They talk. Madison’s all I’m sorry I broke your heart and Peter’s all I’m sorry I proposed to another woman. Can they move past it? Only one way to find out.
— the bachelor & bitchelor 🌹 (@acceptedrose) March 11, 2020
After the Final Rose: Madison and Peter
In the hot seat on live national television where the whole internet is on fire and Barb is seething with hatred only a few feet away, of course! Madison says she still loves Peter and that hasn’t changed for her since she left him in Australia. Chris asks them how this is going to end and Peter basically says he’s made a lot of mistakes and it’s taken a toll on both of them and they’re going to take their relationship day by day.
So no Neil Lane ring proposal here. thank God. Then Barb opens up her horrible mouth to say some rude things about Madison and Peter. Peter says nothing. Madison holds her own like a queen. Even though Peter and Madison likely won’t work out, that doesn’t mean you get to disrespect the woman your son says he loves on national television and talk to your son like that. They could have publicly supported him and have their concerns discussed in private. Nice going, Barb – not a good look. Being a manipulative mother is awful and I hope Peter learns how not to raise his children one day.
Then they brought Clare out to bring me any hope in the dumpster fire of this season.
— Shelley Akins (@shellyeahhhhh) March 11, 2020
Final Stats of the Bachelor Finale
Technical Winner: Hannah Ann
Final Rose: Hannah Ann
Real Winner: Madison
— Lo (95%) (@biscuitmonsta) March 11, 2020
The Bachelor Finale Recap
I’m livid and honestly, triggered by Barb’s behavior. I liked Peter on Hannah’s season but he did not deliver that Peter this season. However, I think these past few episodes have given some insight to why Peter is the way that he is. That’s not to excuse his actions or behavior but did let me empathize with him more. I do wish Hannah Ann all the good things and that her heart has the time to heal properly and she finds the love she deserves. Plus I’d love to see her and Hannah Brown becomes best friends.
And on the other side, I do wish Peter and Madison the best and that things work out for them as they navigate this mess. And I hope Barb either fixes her distasteful attitude or Peter moves far, far away from her. Lord help whoever ends up with Barb as a mother-in-law has wine on hand at all times.
As for Clare’s season, I have high hopes. I really hope it does get better because, all jokes aside, writing these recaps this season has felt like a chore and not as fun as they once were. So here’s to Clare finding love and providing us with a season that reminds us why we actually like this show to begin with.
What are your thoughts on the Bachelor finale? Or are you just glad this season is finally over and we can put it behind us and pretend it never happened? Because same.
Don’t forget to follow me on Twitter for live tweets of the show every Monday and I think I’m hilarious. And as much as I think that Listen To Your Heart is going to be a trainwreck, you already know I’m not going to miss a single episode and will also be live-tweeting that.
Be on the lookout in the following months to join my Bachelorette Fantasy League for Clare in the upcoming months, and play along with me every week – it’ll be fun!
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