I’ve never been one to take risks with my clothes. I mean I don’t think pairing t-shirts with skirts is all that risky. But I never liked – and still don’t – be looked at if there’s a possibility that I’m being judged negatively. It makes me uncomfortable, as it does for a lot of people. So, because of that, I tend to wear things that are safe: leggings, jeans, t-shirts, and sweaters. And those things are comfortable for me and I like what I wear. But in the past year, I’ve wanted something more.
What that more was, I don’t know. I didn’t want to dye my hair anymore because it’s too expensive for this poor college student on a budget (fun fact: I had blonde hair three years ago and bangs almost two years ago). Looking at those phases look like totally different people to me. And to be honest, I was.
Each of those styles signifies who I was at that time. Blonde haired me was graduating high school and starting my freshman year of college. I was determined to be more open and try new things. That year of me was also a little bolder. Then, when I got bangs, it’s very true when people say you get bangs when you’re going through something. And I was. I was moving on from a breakup, making “eh” decisions (I mean clearly, I got bangs…). Finally, I went back to my regularly scheduled hair color and here we are.
I did debate about going back to being blonde recently, and maybe one day I will. But I don’t think my hair is what needed changing this time. It was my clothes. But I don’t have the money to go out and buy new stuff all the time so I had to come up with something else.
My only solution was to stare at my clothes hanging in my closet and try to come up with different ways to wear them. I have a few pieces that I am obsessed with but I tend not to wear because they aren’t what I would normally wear. Then I thought if I love these pieces but I feel insecure about what other’s would think about it, what fun is that? This goes for a lot of things in my life. I’m very aware of the fact that I tend to let fear and insecurity run my life. And I’m working on that and this is part of how I’m working on it.
So what if people stare?
How long am I going to keep letting what other people think of me run my life? Yes, I have anxiety which doesn’t help that. Yes, I think part of me will always care what people think of me. But it doesn’t have to be everything all the time. That’s when I decided to put some outfits together that I really love. And this is one of them.
I saw on Pinterest one day and quite a few bloggers and influencers on Instagram pairing their t-shirts with their skirts. It’s so simple and yet something I never even thought of doing. I’ve had this pink and white striped skirt from Kohls for years that I’ve probably worn about 5 times at maximum. I never really wore it because the shirts I used to wear it with are really cropped and I’m not that into that style anymore. But I love the skirt.
When I saw all these beautiful women wearing this trend, I needed to try it. It’s “in-style” and won’t cost me a dime because I have skirts and t-shirts sitting in my closet now. However, I stole this t-shirt from my brother’s room in a heap of shirts he left behind when he moved earlier this year. And it pulled my vision together. Since it is my older brother’s shirt, I tied the front of it into a knot and rolled the sleeves up quite a bit to make it more feminine. The vintage look of the t-shirt paired with this pink skater skirt and regular Vans really made the picture in my head come to life. It was the perfect balance of not overly girly and not super edgy. It’s relaxed and comfortable and I love it. I’m super excited to wear more outfits like this throughout the Summer.
“Fairy tales aren’t just about finding handsome princes. They’re about fulfilling your dreams. And about standing up for what you believe in.”
Another thing that I’m learning to be more confident in is things that I enjoy. Sometimes I feel like my taste in music, books, movies, and television shows are seen as beneath people and they will think less of me because it’s not something that’s classic or sophisticated. Trust me I know, it’s ridiculous but like I said I’m working on it.
Since my semester ended a few weeks ago, I’ve had a little more time on my hand to enjoy some of my favorite movies. The other day I mindlessly had Freeform on in the background while I was doing miscellaneous tasks and it was a marathon of romantic comedies. They showed some of my favorites and even some I haven’t seen before. I found myself abandoning my tasks and falling into the movies because there is just something about rom-coms that get me every time. I can see a movie a million times and still be so in awe of it by the end.
Maybe it’s because I have and will always be a hopeless romantic. I love love so much – I love my relationship and I love when others are in love. There’s just something so magical about it that I cannot quite put my finger on yet. I grew up loving Disney Princesses, specifically Cinderella, so that may have something to do with it. Love is magic. Being in love is magic. Building a long-term life with your best friend is magic. I will probably always believe that all types of love – romantic or not – will be the best part of life. How cool is it that you can love someone or something so intensely that it makes you want to be a better person, protect the person or thing, and want what’s best for them or it?
I also have an overwhelming list of romance movies I love, but for now, I’ll just stick with some classic rom-coms!
So, here are a few of my favorite rom-coms:
- A Cinderella Story
- This is the first rom-com that I can remember watching and being obsessed with. There was a day where I watched this movie twice in a row. Yeah, I was that into it. I remember watching it and feeling all of Sam’s emotions and wanting a love that beautiful and romantic. And, of course, as I got older I related more and more to Sam (not in an evil step-mom and sisters way, but you get the idea). Plus, it has Hilary Duff – who wouldn’t love it?
- 13 Going on 30
- How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
- 27 Dresses
- The Proposal
- Sweet Home Alabama
- Bride Wars
- Breakfast at Tiffany’s
- Crazy, Stupid, Love
What is your favorite way to pair your skirts with? Are you all about the t-shirt with a skirt trend, or are you passing on it? And do you have any must-see rom-coms that I need to see that aren’t on my list?